It’s that time of year. Backpacks are packed, routines are returning, and classrooms will soon be filled with chatter! Back-to-school season can feel like a fresh start for many. But for kids and families navigating grief, this time of year often reawakens loss in unexpected ways.
A parent missing from the first-day photo. A sibling not at the bus stop. An empty chair at open house. These absences are quiet, but they are deeply felt. Grief doesn’t wait for a convenient season—and it doesn’t clock out for school hours.
For children and teens, returning to school while grieving can bring a unique set of challenges: trouble concentrating, feeling isolated from classmates, changes in behavior or academic performance, and even anxiety about leaving a surviving caregiver. Meanwhile, educators and caregivers may feel unsure of how to help, especially when students don’t outwardly express their grief.
That’s why, as we dive into the school year, it’s so important to lead with grace—for ourselves, for the children in our lives, and for one another.
Grief isn’t linear. It shows up in waves, especially during milestones and transitions. Whether a student is grieving a death from last summer or many years ago, new chapters can stir old emotions. It’s okay if your child—or you—aren’t moving at the same pace as others.
Tri-Cities Chaplaincy understands how crucial it is to have safe spaces for processing these emotions. Cork’s Place Kids Grief Center, a program of Tri-Cities Chaplaincy, offers peer-based support groups for children and teens ages 3 to 17 who are grieving the death of someone important to them. These groups use creative expression, play, and storytelling to help kids feel understood, supported, and less alone.
Cork’s Place isn’t a therapy program, and there’s no pressure to “move on” or “fix” anything. Instead, it’s a community where kids can say, “me too,” and be met with kindness. Parents and guardians also receive support through concurrent groups that help them understand how grief impacts their child and family.
In addition to 5-week programming, Cork’s Place offers grief care kits for children who cannot attend group for any number of reasons—including schedule conflicts, unable to secure transportation, etc. These kits include hands-on activities and the appropriate supplies, so support and mindfulness can take place at their convenience.
As the new school year unfolds, here are a few gentle reminders:
- Grief looks different for everyone. Some kids cry. Some act out. Others seem “fine” but may be struggling silently. There’s no right or wrong way to grieve.
- Check in often—and listen without trying to fix. Simply being present and validating emotions can go a long way.
- Celebrate small wins. Showing up for school, finishing an assignment, or making it through the day is a huge accomplishment.
- Ask for help when you need it. You don’t have to carry grief alone—and neither do your kids.
Whether you’re a parent, teacher, neighbor, or friend, your understanding can help grieving children feel seen. And if you or someone you love is navigating loss, Cork’s Place and Tri-Cities Chaplaincy are here for you.
Learn more or refer a child or family at TCCBestLife.org/corks-place or by calling (509) 783-7416 EXT 3006.
This season, let’s remember: Grace makes room for healing—and healing takes time.